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How to build more authentic relationships.

The opposite of loneliness is -- being understood.

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Israa Nasir
Mar 08, 2024
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When I moved to New York City, about six years ago, I was surprisingly lonely. Loneliness was an unexpected experience - I had just gotten married, my sister lived in New York too, and I loved New York City. Yet, there I was, feeling lonely in a way that I had never been before. It was eye-opening, humbling and I felt overwhelmed by it. 

The issue is, we mistakenly believe that the opposite of loneliness is being around others - that’s only half of the solution. Loneliness is not about how many people are around you, but about how you relate to people around you. As I navigated learning about a new city and new relationships, I realized what I was missing was community in this new stage of my life. I was in a life transition and this new version of me needed to reflect on new needs. I needed to learn more about myself before I could feel connected to new people. This realization led me on a journey of intentional self-discovery and seeking new, authentic friendships.

Big cities are paradoxical - there are so many people, yet it is hard to find people like you. Something that helped me a lot at that time was joining social clubs that aligned with my interests and values (like, Girls Who Meet). Tip: becoming a regular at a social club helps find others you can build connections and have shared experiences with.

I also learned that overcoming loneliness requires two things: (1) being intentional about who we spend time with and (2) how well we know ourselves. 


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  • Ways to alleviate loneliness: Building authentic connections, learn how to align expectations with the right relationships, and 3 ways to build a stronger relationship with yourself.

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